Maharaji, in one of his talks with Ram Das, said something truly important: “You don’t have to change anybody; you just have to love them…”.
Many before and after him have expressed the same message in different ways: “Love All”.
I know deep within my heart that our purpose as human beings, is Divine realization, that our mission is to love every living being (including ourselves) without attachments, and without expectations.
But I also feel deep within my soul that as human beings we are not always capable of loving one other, not because we can’t but because the pain and the suffering we experience, the ego that wants to both protect us and itself have a powerful emotional charge that doesn’t allow us to see beyond the illusion of separation. And that is OK!
But there is a way out of the illusion, and there is a way out of your suffering without forcing yourself to love someone when all you feel is anger, frustration and you simply want to punch someone in the face.
I never supress my emotions. I don’t think suppressing anger and forcing myself to feel love and compassion is good. But I also know that dwelling in those lower frequencies is not good for myself either.
And so, I learned a way to feel and release. I may not be able to love the person or people I am dealing with yet, but by doing this step by step process, I am remembering to love myself, and that is the first step towards my healing and my freedom.
Every day, I try to be aware of any emotion that surfaces from my subconscious mind, that is triggered by outside circumstances or a memory of the past.
I see it, I feel it and I let it go and every time I do that, I love myself more.
I love myself enough to do this every single day, every time I am challenged by the environment, by situations, peers, people and by my own personal healing.
I feel the emotion, I listen to what it has to say, I may cry, say something, talk about it, even judge the person and situation… imagine that 😉
I become aware that I am reacting and recreating an old pattern (what is it?). I don’t need to know why, I just know the pattern is there, I got triggered and I have to face the emotion that I am feeling.
I let go of the emotion, the pattern, the idea of how it should or should not be by going back to the PRESENT MOMENT. I stop creating in my mind whatever drama is trying to unfold. I breathe deeply from my heart with my heart.
I sit or walk in the NOW. I don’t think about a future event (that may or may not happen).
I don’t think about what just happened that triggered me so much to make me angry. I can still feel sad or angry, but I don’t think about the past or the future.
I simply am in the now. I focus on the things I have to do in every single moment. I don’t think about the past or the future. I simply AM!
I become aware of my energy, the energy around me, and as soon as I can, I sit with my eyes closed and place a hand over my heart and I breath with my heart slowly, deeply, and effortlessly. I keep breathing and feeling my heartbeat (the heartbeat of the Divine) inside my chest.
I feel deep gratitude for my life, for my breathe and for all that I have learned to overcome the “enemy” within and without!
And I start by loving myself enough to do this every time I am triggered… I may not be able to feel love for all living beings but at least I don’t stew in energies that can send me down into a downward spiral.
The first key step is finding the PRESENT MOMENT! The other steps will eventually follow.
This moment is all you have
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