Lord Buddha said: “we must not believe in a thing merely because it is said; nor traditions because they have been handed down from antiquity; nor rumours, as such; nor writings by sages, because sages wrote them; nor fancies that we may suspect to have been inspired in us by a Deva (that is, in presumed spiritual inspiration); nor from interference drawn from some haphazard assumptions we may have made; nor because of what seems an analytical necessity; nor on the mere authority of our teachers or masters. But we are to believe when the writing, doctrine, or saying is corroborated by our own reason and consciousness. For this … I taught you not to believe merely because you have heard, but when you believe of your consciousness, then to act accordingly and abundantly (taken from Om Mani Padme Hum by Master Chon Kok Sui)”.
This passage is about Discernment.
Judgment comes from ego, discernment comes from Spirit.
It is painful to me, to witness how our differences and ego have become such powerful driving forces in the world. We don’t seem capable to exercise Respect and be kind towards anyone, not even ourselves. We hope to find refuge in the spiritual or religious world, to be accepted and above all respected for who we are and for the messages we are bringing forth.
Alas, the reality is different.
Paradoxically in the Spiritual and religious world, where we should know better than accusing others, we are very quick to judge. Although we strive to love all, we always end up in the same old trap. We tend to judge anything and anyone (including ourselves), but the act of judging is so deeply embedded in our consciousness that we often don’t notice that we are doing it.
This is a very difficult subject to write about, because I am aware that I can easily slip into judgement and it is the last thing I want to do. But I’ll try to put into words what I am feeling deep within my being.
To move beyond judgment is one of the hardest things humanity must experience. It is part of our awakening but not an easy task to accomplish. It is hard, because we often find difficult to separate respect for a person’s choice from our rage towards actions that cause immense suffering. I am not talking about our right to prevent evil from happening, or our anger at the injustice we see around the world. But I am talking about the way we handle certain situations, how we easily judge certain behaviors without knowing the background, the story and the experiences that lead someone to act in certain ways. We should prevent bed things from happening, because putting a plaster on a scar, will leave the scar even when it’s healed. But if we prevent them, the scar will cease to exist.
But in this blog I am mainly talking about the way we easily judge teachings, energy healing techniques, meditations just to name a few… We never stop and think that (although we come all from one Source and we are just One Heart in Spirit) as human beings we respond to energy and teachings in different ways. What works for you doesn’t necessarily works me.
And I say we because I am honest with myself and I know sometimes I fail to move above judgment too. I am not perfect, and I don’t pretend to be. But I have learnt to recognize when it happens in my life. It was a big step to take, for me. I judged from my own perspective only and talked about things and people I didn’t even know. But the years have brought me so much clarity. I was forced to see what I was doing wrong, especially when judgment and accusations touched me personally.
And recently it happened again when people and situations close to my heart were affected by the same divisive energy, and I said: NO MORE!
I feel the pain of this in my soul, I see the pain it is causing to others and I keep asking myself these questions:
Who do we think we are to put ourselves on a pedestal of self-proclaimed righteousness?
Why do we think we are better than others?
Why instead of supporting each other, we are eager to destroy the reputation of other human beings?
Why we accept certain things as sacred truth and we never stop to think or feel if it is in fact true?
An article comes up in a newspaper and although we know so much about fake news, we are there below the podium applauding the journalist that exposed fake spirituality…. Why are we so relentless in judging and destroying people’s lives, when in truth we don’t know them at all? We take the world of a journalist we probably don’t know, that writes on a newspaper we never read (except on this occasion) and about a subject he probably doesn’t know at all. And malice is just around the corner waiting for us. It insinuates in our being and we happily jump at the idea of smashing someone else.
If and when we step into temples, churches, a community or follow the rules of a Guru, we must enter with RESPECT. If we don’t like the rules, we must stop criticizing them and simply move on. It is probably the wrong environment for us but that doesn’t make it the wrong environment for all.
Instead, we are so quick to criticize all that doesn’t live up to our expectations, what doesn’t work for us and we blame spiritual or religious teachings for our misfortunes. We know that every single person on this planet experiences his awakening at different times and lives it in different ways. Our culture, environment, society, school, religion family and friends have a profound impact in us and the way we are formed growing up.
I have seen people getting excellent results from different therapies and energy healing techniques or meditations. They all swear it’s the best thing they have ever tried and yet if someone else tries it, they don’t get the same results. From our own personal energy to the expectations we put on others, no wonder one specific thing doesn’t work for us all.
From my personal journey if I can make an example, when I share a message or work with an energy, I know from the beginning that the message I am bringing forth may just be for one, few or many but not for all. I don’t expect people to agree or disagree with me. I am simply passing on a message that comes from Spirit. I know that there is someone out there that can benefit from what I write, someone that needs to hear a specific message. So, I started to receive few private messages about what I was writing and even if I didn’t get hundreds of responses or only one, I knew that wherever the post was supposed to go to help, it went!
We grow and learn in different ways, but we are all moving towards the same goal. Maybe the good and evil of this world must always dance together, on this earth. If happiness was the constant on this planet and in our lives, we would never seek God within and without.
Respect is fundamental in life. When we start judging others, their messages and teachings from a preconceived idea of how something should be, as self-appointed judge and jury, we create intolerance, fanaticism and dogmatism. Imposing our visions and values onto others as the only sacred truth is oppression, nothing more. Respecting the work of others is a powerful act of Love.
I have seen people having wonderful results from the power of positive thinking, while others received miraculous healing by connecting to their wounds and the doing shadow work. For me surrendering is the key to deep healing and awakening. What works for me doesn’t necessarily works for you. People deal with energy in so many different ways and to judge from our limited human perspective creates more division and reinforces the illusion.
So, why are we so quick to say what works and what doesn’t work, as if we are speaking the absolute and only truth?
Why our ego gets triggered if someone says or writes about a subject we don’t agree with, and we overreact?
If something doesn’t resonate with us, or we find it useless, it doesn’t mean it is. So, next time we get triggered by the fact that someone believes in the power of positive thinking or the efficacy of journey into the shadow, why don’t we take a step back and breathe, instead of reacting? No one is forcing us to believe or agree with certain teachings. Maybe that message is not for us, but it is for someone else.
In my personal experience, the last 17 years of my life have been profound revealers. My Spirit made taste the 2 sides of the coin. I repeatedly experienced big life lessons so that I could see where I was blocking my awakening. I could see why certain patterns kept recreating themselves. I felt and understood why certain experiences kept knocking at my door and how by reacting in the same old pattern, I allowed them to happen again.
Betrayal and Judgement, friends or faux?
These 2 were great teachers during these years. My ego *** got injured in the experience. In certain situations, I reacted to the actions of these 2 teachers. Spirit knew how to awaken me. I needed to be slapped. And the wake-up call came again when I saw how judgment, betrayal, accusation and fake news can potentially destroy someone’s life.
I don’t really know why, people feel this need to judge. Maybe they are wounded, and their ego is acting up (this is how it feels to me). If this is the case, I truly hope that they know there is always someone out there ready to support them.
I can hold you, if you let me.
Next time judgment and malice arise from within, before we jump at the idea of judging someone else, why don’t we answer these questions to ourselves?
How do we think our life is going to be when we come out of a war of our own making and in the process, we have destroyed a life?
Shall we feel better, happy and satisfied?
I’d say it’ll probably go like this:
-At first, we can feel empty and so we keep looking for more. Because you see, our need to feed the ego that keeps eating up our energy, becomes stronger with the passing time. We look for someone else to feed upon to satisfy the thirst of our ego and wounded self. We’ll shut down our inner voice and feel miserable. We are going to let anything and anyone influence our life and discernment. Like a negative spiral our words and actions will slowly suck the life out of us until we are left with nothing.
-Or we’ll feel remorse. And if we are strong enough, we take responsibility for our actions and try to make amend.
-Maybe we’ll feel so miserable and guilty that unconsciously we are going to punish ourselves. Our life is going to be a hard terrain for anything to grow on. We’ll find difficult to trust ourselves and others and the inner friend becomes a foe that will destroy anything we want to create.
Can we for once just stop reacting and simply be? We should be past the experience of wounds and Karma.**
In my personal experience, in my search for the Divine, for my own voice and Truth I felt and failed multiple times. I failed so many times that I have lost count. And every time I was lying down on the ground feeling defeated, alone, judged and betrayed I would tell myself “poor me” another so called friend betrayed me and in turn I would judge and criticize too. My ego would inflate, and I would burst in tears, go into a self-pity spiral and get stuck in that dark place again. The web of grandmother wisdom kept me imprisoned on a sticky net. She had to do that to make me realize what I was creating from my ego. I had to be slapped out of it! I had to feel it. And I did!
Unfortunately, people will always find a way to judge others from a self-made pedestal of authority. Even when they say they always tell the truth, be aware where this truth comes from. Use your discernment. Is it coming from malice or love? Truth is not always truth, if it comes from a limited perspective, to hurt us and misdirect us. And what Truth are we talking about?
We all agreed to go through these initiation processes, but it is up to each one of us to be aware of when it happens and make sure we don’t become self-appointed judges of what it is morally right or justifiable. Walking our path doesn’t give us the right to judge or criticize those who are walking and expressing their life purpose in different ways.
One of my wishes for this world is that next time our ego gets triggered instead of standing on a pedestal and dispense lessons on what is right or wrong, we can embrace each-other differences and learn from them and that in that difference that seems to separate us, we may find a bridge that connects us deeply from the roots of Divine Love.
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